Dear family & friends
We eloped!
It was just the two of us, and it was everything we needed it to be. It was full of joy, intention, and so much love. We laughed, we cried, and we made promises to each other that felt grounding and certain. Although we missed having our family there, the day itself was beautiful and meaningful in a way we will carry with us forever.
We know this may come as a surprise to some of you, especially when we originally wanted to plan a wedding in Mexico City for our families to join us in our celebration. Changing those plans was not something we took lightly.
Our timeline changed because our reality did.
Over the past year, we’ve had to have difficult and honest conversations about what it means to build a future in this country, especially as a queer couple who hopes to have children. The current rhetoric and policies targeting trans people, and the growing hostility toward immigrant communities, have made us question what kind of safety and stability we can count on here.
This decision comes from a deep desire to protect our future.
Kayla
For me, this country is the only home I’ve ever known. It holds generations of family history and memories, places that feel familiar without needing explanation, and a whole life built carefully over time. Leaving is not something that comes easy. It carries a certain type of grief, the kind that sits within you and shows up in unexpected ways.
But at the same time, it has required a different kind of honesty: asking what it means to build a future, not just hold onto the comfort of the past. What it means to choose a life that feels safe, stable, and expansive enough for the family we hope to grow.
And part of that has been the quiet but constant awareness and fear of what it means to love someone whose safety is not always guaranteed here, too often made vulnerable by systems and rhetoric beyond our control. Wanting and needing more for ourselves and our family has simply become impossible to ignore.
Silas
I am a first-generation American. My parents came to this country believing in the promise of something better, the opportunity to become something greater. Because of that, I was raised between cultures, shaped by both: the culture my family came from and the one I was born into. That intersection means everything to me. It is who I am.
And as a Mexican-American trans man, it has been painful for me to watch my identity and my culture be targeted, politicized, and questioned. To hear people debate whether people like me deserve the same rights, the same safety, the same future… it takes a toll in a way that’s hard to fully explain.
I am endlessly grateful for the life my family has built in the United States. But part of honoring that legacy is choosing a future where I can live fully, safely, and without fear.
That is why at the end of this year, we will be moving to Spain.
We are relocating with the intention of starting our family and building a life where we know both of us will be recognized as parents, where our identities are protected, and where we can exist with a greater sense of safety and dignity.
This is not a temporary decision or a reaction to a single moment or current political administration. It is the first step toward the life we believe we deserve.
We want every single person we chose to share this with to know how deeply grateful we are for each of you. For your love, your support, and the countless ways you’ve helped shape who we are. Nothing about this decision changes how much we value our family or how important you are in our lives.
We are still us. We are still your family.
We’re just building our life in a different place.
And while this chapter comes with some sadness, it also comes with a lot of excitement and joy for what we’re creating together.
We hope you’ll join us in holding space for both.
With all our love,
Kayla & Silas xx